Guest Blogger; Military Wife- The Real American Hero

Bouhammer Note- The following blog post was sent to me by a good friend and as the title says, a military wife. She wrote this and took the picture hoping I could get this to the Bradshaw family so they could read her words, which are simply “Thank You”. What follows are her words….


The Real American Hero

The other day, President Obama had a “moment of silence” for the “King of Pop”. Seriously? Why? What did he do? What did he provide to the American public? What good has he done for our country? He’s been accused of molesting children, and convicted or not, he’s displayed tons of craziness in his time. Did I grow up on his music? Sure. I loved “Billy Jean” as much as anybody else. But that does not mean that I regard this man as an American Hero. Who is my hero then, you ask? My husband and the thousands of men just like him, among others. The men and women who fight for our freedom every single day.

On the same day that the “King of Pop” died, so did at least two other American heroes – 1LT Brian Bradshaw and Ms. Farrah Fawcett. I know you all know who Farrah Fawcett is – she wore her red bikini in the 70s and played an Angel in the very popular “Charlie’s Angels” show. But you may not know 1LT Bradshaw. I don’t know him either. But he’s one of my heroes. And his death that day is far more important to me than that of a child molester who died of a drug overdose. My hero is a person who fights for the rights of my fellow Americans. In fact, Ms. Fawcett fought long and hard for better cancer research and devoted much funding to the cause. She and her boyfriend/fiancée were also strong advocates of the American Soldier. They are heroes. You know who else is a hero? The pilot who landed Flight 1549 in the Hudson, Pilot “Sully” Sullenberger, is one of my heroes. He took charge when no one else knew what to do, and landed that plane safely, saving hundreds of lives. THAT is an American hero!!

It seems to me that we regard the wrong people as heroes far too often in this country. We think people like Britney Spears, Michael Jackson and Miley Cirus are heroes. They are not. The true heroes of this country are those like 1LT Bradshaw, Captain Sullenberger, and every soldier in every division of the armed services. Not to mention the doctors, teachers and nurses of our country! Why do we forget these heroes? Why do we treat them like second-rate citizens?

To be honest, I’m angry. I’m hurt. I’m saddened by the loss of respect for the true heroes of our country. I have no respect for the Michael Jacksons and the Britney Spears of this world. The people I do have respect for are honorable, they do the right thing, and they fight for the betterment of mankind. Regardless of the fight, they fight for the things that are right for the world.

I, admittedly, grew up in a world of privilege. I grew up in a world where everyone had enough food to eat and clothes on their back and shelter to keep them warm. I grew up in a world where everyone had the advantage of a good education and no one had to fight for a job. I grew up in a privileged life. But today, though I am still very honored by my lot in life, I can see the faults in the system. I can see now where life isn’t fair and where good people get the short end of the stick. I am extremely privileged to live the life I live. I have an honorable and amazing husband. I have respectable friends. I have enough money in the bank to make ends meet, even when times are tough. I am absolutely one of the lucky ones. Without a doubt, I will never lose sight of the honors which I have been bestowed. I am truly lucky. But at the same time, I have the beautiful honor of realizing that my luck is only due to a very unlucky few who paid for my luck. There have been soldiers, men and women with families, out there who fought for my rights before I even knew who they were. They fought for me before I even knew how to thank them for doing so. I am honored to have such a privileged life!

My life is full of reminders now – reminders of a life I used to live. I am reminded every day of how naïve I was in the past. I am reminded every day of how ignorant I was to politics and their repercussions. I am reminded every day of how lucky I am to be an American. Today, though, I am just a lowly woman wishing to express her thankfulness. I would like to honor the true heroes of America. I wish to honor those who fight for our country – be they soldiers, civil servants, cancer fighters, pilots, firefighters, policemen, doctors, nurses, teachers, or any other person who fights for the rights and freedoms of this country. I wish to give thanks to those who do for me what I cannot do for myself. THEY are the true heroes of this country. I only wish Mr. Obama could see my plea and honor them the way he honors ridiculous “heroes” of our country like Mr. Michael Jackson. I wish President Obama could see what I see when I look into my husband’s eyes. I wish Mr. Obama had half the patriotism of my husband and his fellow soldiers. Maybe then this country would be headed in a proper direction. Maybe then this country would recognize its true heroes – and properly thank them.

I know I’m just a housewife, but I’m also a career woman and the future mother of proud, young American children – and if there is one thing I could say to every TRUE American hero, it would be this – “thank you”. It is because of you that our country has survived all this time. It is because of you that we have the freedoms we have today. And it is because of you that we have the beautiful lives we have today. THANK YOU!!! You are the real American heroes and I wish I had a million microphones and a million TV spots and a million radio shows to announce to the world how important you are, how respected you are. But this is just me, saying thank you for the life I live. My life is better because of you. I cannot thank you enough for the privilege I have and for the pride I have in calling myself an American. You are the true heroes of America and I thank you. There are no other words, just thank you. You are amazing and you are my hero. Thank you.


6 thoughts on “Guest Blogger; Military Wife- The Real American Hero”

  1. That was very moving, touching, and for the first time since my hearing of the loss of Brian brought tears to my eyes. I did personally know him, went to high school with him, graduated in fact with him. I will be attending the memorial services at his home and will be certain his loved ones see this.

  2. Brian’s my oldest and dearest friend, as far back as I can remember, Brian was there, and though we fought like siblings, we were always there for each other, no matter what.

    The world is a far lesser place now that he’s gone, and it means so much to know that there are people out there who want to commemorate Brian more than the beloved King of Pop.

    You never knew him, yet you recognize the importance of what he did, and that means so much.

  3. MJ isn’t worth one of the drops of blood that drained out of Neda’s eyes as she lay on the pavement, or of the 1LT’s. That all network news was wiped out for a day by coverage of him was outrageous. That it has gone on for over a week is infuriating and nauseating in equal parts.

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